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No matter how delicious the food, how festive the decorations or how
joyous the holiday activities, when the Xmas, Chanukah, Kwanza,
Ganapati and New Year’s Eve are over, many of us are left with stress
COPING WITH POST HOLIDAY STRESS
We wish the festivities could continue. We
are sad that loved ones were not present or have returned home, leaving
us feeling empty and alone. We are frustrated with the
ordinariness of our routines. We wish our lives were
We feel hopeless that such change will ever be possible.
the high moments of the holidays exaggerate all the feelings we had
before but were able to mask and hide even from ourselves.
can we do to relieve this angst?
I am not going to suggest a
trip to the therapist, a dose of Valium or an herbal remedy for
depression. I am not going to tell you just hang in there, you will
feel better in time, rather I am want to introduce you to a whole new
way of perceiving and coping with post holiday stress.
Let’s deal with the post holiday stress from this energetic viewpoint.
Year’s is over; you are headed back to work, to school or just to the
ordinary responsibilities of everyday life. The excitement
magic of the holidays are over and all that is left is commuting to
work, conveying the kids to their lessons, managing two jobs to make
ends meet and/ or coping with a partner who is not holding up his or
her end of the marital agreement to love, honor and cherish
can you do? The answer is - to shift gears, just
you would shift gears in a car. Shift from a low gear to a
gear, shift from a low and limited state of vibration that is low and
limiting to one that is higher and in which the feelings of remorse,
disappointment, frustration, depression, anger, hopelessness and
self-loathing cannot exist.
have low, slow or heavy vibrations. Positive feelings, like joy,
happiness, fulfilment, laughter, hopefulness, harmony and peace have
high vibrations. When you have those positive feelings; the
negative ones just disappear; they cannot exist in the vibrational
field of the high vibrations. It is a little like a cube of
that cannot survive in a cup of hot water. The cube of ice is
lot like our negative feelings; it’s vibrations are dense and
slow. The faster, higher vibration overtake the slower, lower
ones. Your depression at the thought of the ensuing year
difficult and challenging as last year or your anger at your boss for
not treating you with respect or your frustration with you kids that
they did not appreciate what you worked so hard to buy for them for
Xmas or your disgust with yourself for overeating and now having to
face weeks of dieting to get into those gorgeous new jeans, your
sadness that your father who loved children so very much,
away two months ago and was not present at the Christmas dinner to see
your new baby, none of these feelings can exist once you shift gears to
a higher vibrational state.
So how do you achieve this
shift? How do you let go of these very real and deeply held
emotions? How do you change energetic gears?
Stop. Take a
few deep breaths and become as calm and balanced as you are
Continue breathing until you feel yourself letting go of the
angst. Move into a neutral state. Go into a state
feelings as much as you are able. That neutral state is a
place, where the vibrations are calm and balanced and from which you
will be able to shift into a higher state of vibrations just by imaging
yourself there. No, this is not magic. It is
possible to imagine feeling as you did on Xmas Morning.
Sense/feel the excitement and anticipation of the opening of holiday
gifts. See in your mind’s eye the Chanukah Memorah all lit
glimmering before you. See the different colors of the Kwanza
candles and Ganapati adornments and sense the different feelings that
each color elicited. Whatever holiday you have just
in your mind’s eye return to the celebration to feel whatever aspect of
it was joyful and happy. And, if by chance, there was some
sadness and shadow over your holidays, take yourself on an imaginary
trip to a place or time when joy was present; it doesn’ t matter where
you go in your mind in that neutral state as long as you shift gears
from the negative place that was dragging you down to a neutral or
positive state that raises your vibratory field. It is
that you move into a positive state in your mind.
that new state of mind, the depression, hopelessness, sadness or anger
you felt just a moment ago cannot be present. The vibration
joy is higher, faster and stronger than the vibration of
They cannot co-exist.
Your challenge is to shift, in
your mind to a positive state. Feel it, enjoy it, celebrate
and then become aware that you are no longer depressed or
This new state may only last a moment or it may last a whole
evening. However, long it continues, congratulate yourself
your shift and for your achievement at energetically shifting
gears. Then repeat the process, over and over and over again
many times as is necessary until you can sustain the new
while you are doing this, pay attention to what occurs in your
environment, because change will actually occur. As you
positive in your perspective, good and positive things are drawn to
you; people with positive attitudes, opportunities and experiences will
be drawn to you. It will seem like magic, but it is
You will have transformed the energetic world in which you live and in
so doing you will have created a new physical and energetic
reality. The physical world around you will begin to reflect
mirror the vibrations in your being that you are creating with your
As like draws like, when you are positive in
your thoughts, you will
draw positive experiences to you.
this exercise...Share it with your friends and family. Teach
to your children and watch the seeming magic occur as post holiday
stress becomes post holiday peace as you realize that you can shift
your way of being every day of the year, any time you will stop, detach
from that which is disturbing you, go into neutral and bring in the
positive energies of joy, peace and harmony.
Now I cannot
promise that every situation will permanently change, but you will
shift and the moments will alter and if you are able to keep changing
the moment -moment by moment - eventually, you will experience amazing
changes in your life.
Remember those invisible
vibrations around you are real, as real as the chair on which you sit
and the magazine which you are reading. Continue to remind
yourself that this is so. Feel the negative vibrations and
feel the new positive ones. Are they not real? Which ones
you rather experience?
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great deal has been written about manifestation, most of which I
totally accept and follow. And, from a multi-dimensional
perspective, I believe there are a few missing pieces.
new multi-dimensional world is composed of much faster vibrations than
the world that has existed for centuries. The rules of the
world are no longer effective in this new, faster
For centuries, scientists have talked of the pulse or heart beat of the
earth as being 8 cycles per second. In 1980, they indicated that it had
increased to 12 cycles per second. It is believed to be even
faster today. Time as we know it, is no more. It is faster
we are accustomed to and getting faster. What you once accomplished in
24 hours, now must be done in 16. It also means that the
of manifestation is intrinsically different for the world is different.
my book, Multi-Dimensional You, I devote a chapter to what I call the
16 Commandments of Manifestation. The first ten of these
commandments or guidelines worked well in the three dimensional world
in which most people live according to their five senses.
is seen, heard, felt, tasted or touched or it was not
required that you:
1) Set a clear intention,
2) Insure that your beliefs are in alignment with your goals, 3) insure
that your values support your intention,
4) Require excellence and integrity in every step of the process of
moving towards your goal.
5) Hold an unshakable commitment to your goal, no matter the
hindrances, no matter the odds, not matter the challenges.
6) Build a strong foundation.
7) Follow through physically to the goal
8) Release all toxicity
9) Observe and Respond to the subtle messages or metaphors in the field.
10) Express gratitude for all you have.
are excellent guidelines, but they are no longer enough.
rules of manifestation worked in a world of slower
the newly evolving world of faster and faster vibrations we need new
guidelines for manifesting our desires.
In this new world into which
we, as a human species, are moving, truth exists beyond the five
senses; it encompasses the invisible, intangible world of the
other-dimensions and requires that we pay attention to the new subtle
clues that we mostly overlooked before.
Now we must expand our
perspective to pay attention to the multi-dimensional aspects of our
world in order to manifest our goals. Without this added
awareness, we may not be able to consistently achieve our
There are six additional Commandments to follow in order to manifest
one’s goals in the new multi-dimensional reality.
The most important of these is to create an energetic throughway from
you to your goal and to keep it constantly open.
energetic path from you to your goal is as real as the physical highway
from your house to your place of work. Ignore either and you will not
reach your destination. You must be vigilant about both. If the road on
which you are travelling is blocked, you must notice and take the
detour suggested. If your subway is cancelled, you must find
alternate route to work. Likewise, when you sense/feel that
energies are stuck between you and your goal, visualize them flowing
freely like a river. Intuit where they are blocked and remove the
energetic as well as physical challenges. Remember, we have moved into
a world in which the energetic realms are as important as the physical
together at a specific example.
and your five children are living in a two room apartment and you dream
of a larger home with a lovely yard in which your children can play, a
home that you can afford and that will support you and your family in
the years to come.
with your statement of intention.
I would like
to manifest a home for myself and children that will meet all our
physical and emotional needs.
might draw a picture of the home you desire, cut out an image from a
magazine or list all the aspects of the home that you desire.
& 3) Then you need to check your beliefs and your
you truly believe you deserve such a home. If you doubt your
deservability, you will not be able to make this dream come
If your values say, I shouldn’t have such a home while others are
starving, that too would block the path to your dream.
Now comes the action aspect of this process. Every step you
must be in integrity. Do you pay your rent or mortgage on
time? Do you treat your current home with care and respect
and out? Do you interact with your neighbors in a kindly and
what about #5 or your unshakable commitment? You are
doing two jobs and are barely making ends meet; you doubt your ability
to turn your luck around. Such a belief would block the path
right from the start. Or you are severally handicapped and
that your handicap will make it impossible to manifest your
dream. Your challenge is to trust that no matter what,
all odds, you are committed and you will do whatever it takes to reach
& 7) What constitutes the next two commandments – a strong
foundation and diligent follow through? These two directives
involve looking at ads, telling realtors of your situation and your
goal, talking to social service agencies, filling out applications,
basically doing everything you, and everyone who is committed to
assisting you, suggests that you do. You never know where or
Spirit will intervene to bring your dream to fruition.
Next comes the release of all toxicity. Here, I am referring
any negativity that might block the road. This could mean
distancing yourself from a friend, relative or realtor who tells you
that your goal is impossible or who is distracted by their own issues
so that they do not support you as you feel is fair and just. Or it
might mean asking those around you to hold a positive attitude, rather
than a sceptical or negative one. Anything that is negative, doubtful,
resentful, angry, vengeful or frightened could be toxic to you and your
process as you attain your dreamed of goal. Trust, peace,
balance, harmony, joy and laughter are the positive emotions you need
to maintain to counter the negativity which is a boulder in your road.
Observe and respond to the subtle messages or metaphors in the field.
What do I mean by this commandment? If, for example, you keep
seeing the name of a rental agent 3 -4 5 times in your daily
paper. It seems to catch your eye, every time you see it and
you hear it on the radio as well. Stop and respond.
Universe is trying to get your attention. It is not an accident that
you have noticed this person’s name so many times. Call them,
even though you cannot imagine how that individual could help
you. Spirit works in strange ways. You have no idea
the result of a simple call or email might be.
And finally express gratitude for all you have. This is
critical. Without gratitude, the universe does not seem to
respond to our dreams for all that is, is good and prefect, even if it
is now what we wish it to be, and we must acknowledge that.
now we are ready for Commandment #11, one of the more energetic
guidelines. In your mind, create an energetic throughway from
to your goal. See, visualize, draw, paint, describe a path
where you are to where you want to go, from your small apt to your new
home. Visualize that path in any way that is comfortable to
you. Imagine all the possible blocks and remove them in you
mind’s eye. And keep removing them in your imagination every
they reappear. You may need to do this only once a day or you
need to clear the path 30 or 40 times a day. It doesn’t
long as you keep the path open. Yes, you must remove physical
blocks, but in this Commandment I am asking you to pay attention to any
blocks or anything in the vibrations and frequencies in or around you
that might slow down or stop the process of manifestation. We
looked earlier at our attitudes and beliefs and hopefully you released
those that were hindering you emotionally and psychologically; now it
is time to look from a energetic vantage point. Is everything in the
environment around you vibrationally harmonious? Are all the
people with whom you are working on your goal energetically
resonant? If someone in your family, team or group are of a
vastly different frequency, then it may drag the whole team down and
you will experience discord and obstacles, rather than smooth sailing
and successful manifestation.
and everything along that throughway from you to your goal must be
energetically aligned. If something is not harmonious, it
removed; if someone is not aligned, they too may have to be replaced.
Perhaps you have a cousin or husband, who is negative and dissonant
with the process.
either of them intrudes and pulls you off your energetic throughway,
the situation must be corrected. The intrusive cousin or
untrusting husband, must be lovingly removed from the energetic field
so that the energy can flow freely.
And, once the
highway is open, reinforce it regularly with your intentions,
affirmations, prayers, and visualizations, actions and trust that you
will be walking that path physically very, very soon.
remember...and here is a clue to another of the five remaining
energetic Commandments. The Universe has it’s own timing,
we often cannot perceive. Trust that
timing. Let go,
even while you are working towards your goal. Allow it to unfold...and
keep trusting while you patiently let go. .
information on the multi-dimensional world and the Sixteen Commandments
to manifestation in that world, please go to:
(This section was adapted from Elaine’s new
book, Multi-Dimensional YOU, Exploring Energetic Evolution.)
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